A little something…

What a wonderful husband I have. Part 1. November 18, 2008

I was going though some old files and came across our premarital task file. Our last task we had was that we had to write a letter to a friend who had never met the other and describe them. Then we gave them to Randy who returned them to us the night before our wedding to read. This is the letter I wrote about Phil to my friend – and I just thought I’d share it.

Since, you haven’t had the chance to meet Phil, I thought that I would take this time to describe him to you, that way when you do meet him you’ll have an idea of what to expect ☺

I figure starting from the beginning is probably the best place to begin…

Prior to meeting Phil I had high expectations of him, I had heard about him and had seen some excellent pictures so I was very anxious to meet him. However, when I did first meet him my expectations where not initially met. He didn’t have the tall, dark and handsome look to him, he had more a rough around the edges look, wearing shorts that I easily would have fit into with him as well.

He did have a way about him though, and although he was trying hard, and he thought I wasn’t interested I secretly was, and in a way was trying to make him a little jealous so he’d work just that little bit harder, and HE DID!

Phil always had a way with his words and actions, and he knew what he wanted from the beginning and wasn’t afraid to go after it, which for me was amazing as I didn’t think someone would ever do that for me. He gave me butterflies and I was always anticipating seeing him, I know from that day on I always spent a little more time getting ready, just hoping he’d notice.

I think the thing that really won my heart though, was his smile… it would light up the whole room, and definitely would light up my heart. No matter what the situation or conversation if he smiled everything would seem to be okay, and I felt safe. His smile reaches from one ear to the other, and it is a genuine smile. He has one of those smiles that contagious… and when he laughs it’s that much better!

Phil also has a kind soul, and is a good listener. When we first started dating we had different ideas of things and different focus’ but he was able to listen, share and understand. He has also been the more encouraging person to me in the whole world, and has helped me become the person I am. I wish that I could learn more from him, and hope that over the next 50+ years he continues to help me grow into a woman of God.

Maybe I’ll give you a bit of a physical description of Phil, so you have a mental picture of what all this goodness is rolled into.
• He’s tall, about 6’
• Dark hair, he likes to wear it a little long and shaggy, which I like ☺ but I have to say when he does cut it short it’s a nice change too
• He has eyes that change color, but are mainly a greeny/hazel
• His build is athletic fit, he’s not lanky-awkward skinny, but he is skinny, which I point out often when I am resting on him and its boney ☺
• He has hands that are big and safe, and my hand fits perfectly into his
• He has kissable lips which, when do not get kissed make an excellent ‘poopy face’ which always melts my heart
• The basics include: size 32” waist, M shirt, 12 shoe.
What else would I say to describe Phil… well he has a heart for God and wants to act in a way that is honoring to him. He strives to live a Godly life and is an example to many people around him. He uses the gifts God has blessed him with in positive ways, including worship team, youth group and even being around his friends.

He plays bass, drums and electric guitar… his preference would be bass or drums, but on a real kit, a nice kit!

Sports related Phil’s favorite is soccer, he also enjoys squash, volleyball, basketball, biking, skim boarding, snowboarding, and basically anything that is physical and outside he’s up for. He’s not too competitive, unless its soccer or squash game with the guys, which makes it nice because then we can play together which is always enjoyable.

His other passion is computers. He currently is a web-developer at NIC but I know he’s anxious to get into a job that is a little less structured and he has a bit more room to use the talents he has to the best of his ability. He can create amazing work, and is so creative. I am terrible for not telling him how proud I am of it, but I really am… he is more creative and brilliant than I sometimes give him credit for, which is something I need to make sure to let him know.

Lets talk about his character: Well, he’s funny, which again I always tell him he’s not. But, he’s a different funny, not funny where he tells jokes that are funny, because they usually aren’t but he is silly funny, goofy funny. He likes to be silly in all situations and its fun to watch him, his facial expressions are priceless and he can light up an entire room. He is a shy guy at first, he doesn’t put himself out there, and he’s usually standoffish until he’s comfortable with the people he’s around. He’s sensitive, and kind, caring and patient. He’s understanding and a great confident, and will be there even when he doesn’t understand what’s going on. He is excellent to lean on, and is always there. He’s emotional, not like girl emotional, but he’s not afraid to show emotion and share how he’s feeling, which I find to be such a blessing, because then we can share that with each other.

He’s not a romantic, although he does try, which is cute! He knows I want him to be and he does work on it, I think that he’d do more if I weren’t always hinting, or asking. He’s pretty creative that way, like for our 1st Valentines Day together, he made me paper flowers, and he cut our every petal from colored paper! It was the most special and romantic gift ever!

Since Phil has learned what my love language is he has taken that knowledge and just shows me he loves me all the time. Which is great for me, but can be expensive, so I think we’ll have to use my 2nd love language sometimes too. He is always willing to let me get something new, and is so sweet to say it benefits him too, because he likes to see me wear it, or see me happy. That’s pretty impressive!

Most of all I think the biggest thing is I feel safe with Phil. He makes me feel like that is where I belong, and that we will have a great life together. I never doubt that he loves me or question our relationship, although sometimes I say things that contradict that. But deep down I know he is the one for me and me for him. We are definitely 2 peas in a pod. He does complete me and makes me a better person each day, and someone I want to be.

I am looking forward to getting to know Phil more and more each day of the rest of my life. He is an amazing guy who has so much to offer, and he is an amazing guy who has loved me for me from the very beginning and has never tried to change that! I love and appreciate him so much and cant wait until the day we say I do!